You talk about tapping into the body’s “wisdom”. What exactly does that mean?

Let’s say you have a beautiful, burning desire to [become a mother, ask for what you want in bed, quit your job, pole dance, fill in the blank with yours] and no matter how many times you try to take action, you just don’t do it. Or perhaps you don’t even allow this beautiful desire to bubble up to your awareness, but you know something is ‘off’ in your life. Your mind will tell you over and over again the perfectly great reasons why you can’t/won’t/shouldn’t do that thing. Perhaps your life coach left you feeling inspired and motivated yet there’s this sticky little problem which is that it didn’t last. You didn’t do the thing.

Enter the hero – your body. Through tuning into its language (yes, it has its own quite unique language and it speaks to us all of the time), you realize there are blockages to doing this thing. Maybe these blocks arose when you were a kid, maybe as an adult. But you see them clearly now. That’s why you haven’t done the thing! Through tools like breathwork, sounding, movement, and more, you begin to dislodge those blockages. You begin to integrate parts of you that have been lost and then – lo and behold – your whole being is in alignment with doing this thing. The actions that felt slow, difficult, even painful to take now feel joyful, easeful, exciting.

This is what I want to share with you. Whether you walk this road with me as your guide or just stick it in your back pocket knowing it’s there, you have been called – called to see yourself as an intricate beautiful dance of the Soma. (Soma = body, mind, spirit).

Is this somatic work?

This is somatic-based work. We are working with the “soma” or the body by listening to its signals, its cues. When you hear “somatic work” that often refers to Somatic Experiencing (SE) which was developed by Peter Levine in the 1970s to treat trauma. I am not a SE trained therapist or trauma therapist. My clients have already done deep work with trauma-trained practitioners and have moved from surviving into thriving.

What do you mean by ‘sacred sexuality’?

You may hear me call what I do ‘sacred sexuality’ coaching at times and ‘sex, love, and relationship’ coaching other times. They are both true. But what resonates for me deeply is the phrase ‘sacred sexuality’, because that is how I came to be here – seeing that ecstatic sexual experiences are a path to experiencing one’s own divinity and wanting to share that with others. These experiences in turn light up our whole lives because once we see our divinity (the face of god), we are inextricably changed. EVERY aspect of life is different – our relationships, dating life, interactions with our children, depth of friendships, creativity in our work, ability to bring our gifts into the world, and so on.

At first glance it may seem that these two words are antithetical – sacred and sexuality – but once you set aside cultural conditioning and experience it for yourself, you’ll see that two words have never been more right for each other.

Who is this work for?

This work is for any woman who wants to embrace the beautiful-ugly work of understanding her deep yearnings, getting to know the parts of her that are lovable and not so lovable, and are able to approach each session with a “try it on” attitude. Everything is an invitation in our sessions, but those who experience lasting change typically embrace new-ness and are wiling to trying on something to see if it fits.

For those with known traumas, they have already done deep work with a trauma-trained practitioner and have moved from surviving into thriving.

Who is this work not for?

This work is not for anyone with untreated trauma, who is ultimately wanting talk therapy, and/or is uncomfortable trying out new things (for example, trying out breathwork, movement, or sounding at least minimally).

What can I expect in a session?

Every session is unique and never by script. However, a rough sketch of a session is something like this: A grounding or embodiment practice that allows us to co-regulate together or helps you to drop into the session, meeting and working with obstacles or pieces of the body-mind, working with tools like mindfulness, breathwork, movement, sounding, etc to move long-held stagnant energy, reflection and integration time, and real-world steps you can take to further what you’ve learned. Homeplay as I like to call it is often included as well, to bridge the gap between sessions and keep the momentum and learning going.

How are sessions held?

Sessions are held via Zoom. You will receive a secure Zoom link upon scheduling each appointment as well as reminders leading up the appointment.

Do you guarantee results?

No, I cannot guarantee results. In some ways I wish I could deliver the magic pill to you. In some ways the Tantric philosopher in me knows this wouldn’t be the way anyway. Why can’t I guarantee results? Because the success of this work is largely based on where you are at – traumas or other factors in your environment, how much your nervous system is capable at this time of staying in its window of tolerance, openness to trying new things, and willingness to be open and honest with me. I can promise to always meet you where you are at, your nervous system where it is at, and to respect all of you.

Do you offer refunds?

While I don’t offer refunds, I do offer clients the chance to ‘try it on’ with an Introductory 3-session package. If we’re not a fit after this time, there’s no obligation to continue working with me. If you purchase a 3-month or 6-month package and something changes for you after the first session, I will return the package cost minus the first session cost and a small transaction fee that my payment processor charges. If something changes for you mid-way through the package I will not continue to charge you for upcoming months, only the one we’re currently in.

Ultimately I want you to be happy and for this to be a good fit for both of us.